We ARE good enough…. it is just our depression talking when we hear that little voice in our head that says, “you’re not pretty enough.. you’re not smart enough.. you can never have a real relationship… you are worthless… you are never going to be good enough” Don’t listen to those voices they are destructive…. Try to remember this: A person walks up to you and says “You have a green nose” & they walk off laughing at you. Now you KNOW you don’t have a green nose… so JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOU… DOESN’T MAKE IT TRUE!!!! Who said they were the authority on the subject? What makes them think they have the right to pass judgement on anyone? People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones. Not ONE of us is perfect and instead of looking at other people’s flaws they should be looking at their own. Again remember: Just because it is said out loud doesn’t make it the truth!!!
Teen Knows From Experience That Cutting Won’t End Pain
DEAR ABBY: I am a 15-year-old girl. Recently I made a new friend, “Mandy,” and confided to her about my dark past of depression. When I explained how I used to cut myself, she burst into tears and told me she had cut herself the day before. I didn’t expect that response.
I know from experience that what Mandy is doing is not a good way to handle things. What stopped me from cutting was getting a permanent scar from it. Although plenty of people told me that cutting was no way to deal with my pain, the only one I listened to in the end was myself.
I really want Mandy to stop. I told her not to do it, but I’m afraid she will anyway. She’s an amazing person, and she doesn’t deserve the pain she is causing herself. How can I help her? — BEEN THERE IN SAN FRANCISCO
DEAR BEEN THERE: Continue encouraging your friend to stop cutting, but if she’s not able to, she may need professional help to quit. It is nothing to be ashamed of.
A counselor at school might be able to help if Mandy is willing to talk to one. But if she isn’t, then tell your mother about this so she can let Mandy’s mother know what’s going on. Cutting can be a sign of serious depression, and secrets of this kind are destructive.
Never lose your hope in better things to come, because it is hope that gives us courage to take one more step, gives us a reason for getting up in the morning, keeps us from sinking into complete despair. Hope is a powerful emotion… filly your heart with it….
Instead of focusing on the “can not’s” in your life…. try to find the little kernel to be thankful for. Doing that will bring hope, happiness and a full life.
"You see, no one can make you whole. You’re the only person that can do that for yourself. No one can become your happiness. It must be cultivated on your own terms. Two people don’t comprise parts of a whole. When two whole people come together, they take parts of their equally fulfilled lives, and create one whole love to share. I realized at a young age that it’s never going to be easy. It’s the most difficult thing in the world to fulfill yourself. But when you do it, it’s worth it. Your happiness is the most valuable thing on this Earth. And being the creator of your own makes you the most valuable thing on this Earth."
"If they respect you, respect them. If they disrespect you, still respect them. Do not allow the actions of others to decrease your good manners, because you represent yourself, not others."