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Sometimes all a person needs is hand to hold and a heart to understand. Each of us needs someone who will listen with their heart and understand us. I am a real life counselor (a link to my website is above) who will listen and help where I can. QUESTIONS ARE ENCOURAGED and confidentiality is of course honored.
I believe that those who help themselves by reaching out for help will find the light at the end of the tunnel.
The journey of life is made one step at a time and often we need someone to encourage us to take the next step. Please feel free to contact me through Tumblr, Face Book or my website.

It is important to remember this bit of wisdom

It is important to remember this bit of wisdom

(via riseafterfalling)

— 6 days ago with 4049 notes
#like  #acceptance 
Remember…. assumptions make an ass out of u and me…. get the facts before you make a decision or criticize someone. 

Remember…. assumptions make an ass out of u and me…. get the facts before you make a decision or criticize someone. 

— 2 weeks ago
#assume  #facts  #criticize 
We ARE good enough…. it is just our depression talking when we hear that little voice in our head that says, “you’re not pretty enough.. you’re not smart enough.. you can never have a real relationship… you are worthless…  you are never going to be good enough”  Don’t listen to those voices they are destructive…. Try to remember this: A person walks up to you and says “You have a green nose” & they walk off laughing at you.  Now you KNOW you don’t have a green nose… so JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOU… DOESN’T MAKE IT TRUE!!!! Who said they were the authority on the subject? What makes them think they have the right to pass judgement on anyone? People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.  Not ONE of us is perfect and instead of looking at other people’s flaws they should be looking at their own.  Again remember: Just because it is said out loud doesn’t make it the truth!!! 

We ARE good enough…. it is just our depression talking when we hear that little voice in our head that says, “you’re not pretty enough.. you’re not smart enough.. you can never have a real relationship… you are worthless…  you are never going to be good enough”  Don’t listen to those voices they are destructive…. Try to remember this: A person walks up to you and says “You have a green nose” & they walk off laughing at you.  Now you KNOW you don’t have a green nose… so JUST BECAUSE SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING NEGATIVE ABOUT YOU… DOESN’T MAKE IT TRUE!!!! Who said they were the authority on the subject? What makes them think they have the right to pass judgement on anyone? People in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones.  Not ONE of us is perfect and instead of looking at other people’s flaws they should be looking at their own.  Again remember: Just because it is said out loud doesn’t make it the truth!!! 

(via ocean-kissed-lungs-and-liquor)

— 4 months ago with 11614 notes
#good enough  #truth  #flaws 
Teen Knows From Experience That Cutting Won’t End Pain

DEAR ABBY: I am a 15-year-old girl. Recently I made a new friend, “Mandy,” and confided to her about my dark past of depression. When I explained how I used to cut myself, she burst into tears and told me she had cut herself the day before. I didn’t expect that response.

I know from experience that what Mandy is doing is not a good way to handle things. What stopped me from cutting was getting a permanent scar from it. Although plenty of people told me that cutting was no way to deal with my pain, the only one I listened to in the end was myself.

I really want Mandy to stop. I told her not to do it, but I’m afraid she will anyway. She’s an amazing person, and she doesn’t deserve the pain she is causing herself. How can I help her? — BEEN THERE IN SAN FRANCISCO

DEAR BEEN THERE: Continue encouraging your friend to stop cutting, but if she’s not able to, she may need professional help to quit. It is nothing to be ashamed of.

A counselor at school might be able to help if Mandy is willing to talk to one. But if she isn’t, then tell your mother about this so she can let Mandy’s mother know what’s going on. Cutting can be a sign of serious depression, and secrets of this kind are destructive.

— 4 months ago
#cutting  #depression  #help  #pain 
Never lose your hope in better things to come, because it is hope that gives us courage to take one more step, gives us a reason for getting up in the morning, keeps us from sinking into complete despair.  Hope is a powerful emotion… filly your heart with it….

Never lose your hope in better things to come, because it is hope that gives us courage to take one more step, gives us a reason for getting up in the morning, keeps us from sinking into complete despair.  Hope is a powerful emotion… filly your heart with it….

— 5 months ago
#hope 
Instead of focusing on the “can not’s” in your life…. try to find the little kernel to be thankful for.  Doing that will bring hope, happiness and a full life. 

Instead of focusing on the “can not’s” in your life…. try to find the little kernel to be thankful for.  Doing that will bring hope, happiness and a full life. 

— 5 months ago
#thankful 
YOU make your life happen!  Quit waiting for tomorrow, the love of your life, after ______, when you are older, etc.  Make your life happen NOW!

YOU make your life happen!  Quit waiting for tomorrow, the love of your life, after ______, when you are older, etc.  Make your life happen NOW!

— 5 months ago
#hope  #wait  #good things  #life  #life happen